Being Okay Alone

A major contributor of relationship issues is simply the fact that most people are not mentally prepared for a relationship. What I mean by this is simple, if you are not happy alone, you will not be happy in a relationship; when I say happy alone I don’t mean, happy to be single so that you can go out and date a bunch of people,(single and ready to mingle) I mean truly content and balanced by yourself. Happy enough to stay home on a Friday night, to make dinner for yourself and not just eat it in large spoonfuls over the stove but by elegant candle light at your dinner table. Happy enough to take yourself out to a movie or maybe an expensive dinner, happy enough to enjoy your own company without the hope of meeting someone new.

It is understandable that you may feel lonely and disconnected when you are on your own, but you must really master the art of being alone and happy before you will be able to be in a happy relationship. The best way you can jumpstart this realization would be to find a life purpose/passion. Many singles are waiting for a relationship to infuse their life with passion and purpose, not realizing that having a loving partner is not a substitute for a meaningful life. You must find a purpose for waking up in the morning; have a vision of your place in the world and what contribution you want to leave. Be powered by your passion, by taking action. Your life’s purpose will energize you when pursued, and you will begin to reach your happiest state as you pursue this goal. You must figure out what lights your fire, floats your boat, tickles your pickle, however you want to say it, you must find that activity, and harness it. Go with it, whether it be sports, acting, helping others, or something as obscure as making money, find it and go with it. Deep down everyone has some idea to what makes them happy, really search for this and start taking steps.

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